October 18, 2009
If You Always Like The Emotionally Unavailable, It's Because You Probably Are, Too - Objectum-sexuality - Jezebel
If You Always Like The Emotionally Unavailable, It's Because You Probably Are, Too - Objectum-sexuality - JezebelIf You Always Like The Emotionally Unavailable, It's Because You Probably Are, Too
There have been a lot of stories lately (and even a movie) about people in love with inanimate objects. Today, Sega Toys annoyingly announced that it was jumping on this sad trend by creating a doll-sized robot girlfriend, called Eternal Maiden Actualization, for lonely men. While some people who fall in love with inanimate objects call their orientation objectùm-sexuality, it seems to me that such people fall into a larger class of us called "people who are so scared to get hurt that they subconsciously choose relationships in which they won't be." You know, inanimate objects, emotionally unavailable men, we're all just looking to minimize the pain we know is coming.
Sure, everyone gets involved with an emotionally unavailable guy once. They can be so charming! You know there's more to him! He'll realize that you're special! And so you putter around him, a perpetual motion machine of awesomeness in which you minimize your flaws and maximize your coolness factor, acting loving but aloof enough not to scare him at the same time, after which he inevitably fucks someone else or you get hurt by his actual aloofness or worn down by pretending to be some perfect version of yourself to convince him get emotionally invested. Then you learn not to do it again and go find someone that thinks it's funny or even endearing that you talk too loudly when you drink or sing really bad karaoke or have a weird bellybutton and hopefully you open up and let him get to know that person you are when you're not trying so hard to be liked.
On the other hand, some of us keep doing it. Your life becomes an endless string of dudes that don't allow you to get too close or bail before you can get too invested or force your hand into bailing because you're just not going to take that shit from some guy. And you get to feel the butterflies, and you get to know you can still feel by being in just enough pain when it ends that you notice and maybe it will wring some tears out of you, but, really, when he's not letting you get that close, you're actually not that close. Since you can't get close to him, since you're spending your time trying to be so cool or not being upset about the aloofness and the lack of emotional intimacy, you're not letting him in anymore than he's letting you in.
So, yeah, it's weird that some dudes would rather have an expensive doll than try to have a relationship with a person, or that a woman would love the Berlin Wall and not an actual man, but it's no weirder than convincing yourself that you're in love with some dude you don't really know and who doesn't know you. It's all just one of a myriad number of ways to protect your most fragile bits because if someone doesn't know you, then it isn't gonna hurt that bad when they don't love you back.
People In Love With Objects [BoingBoing]
Japan Makes Robot Girlfriend For Lonely Men [Reuters]Related: Objectùm-Sexuality Internationale
Objectum-Sexuality ♥ Erika Eiffel not only dances with architecture, she...ahem...has relations with it/them/he/her! ON Tyra - GIRL LOOKIN' FINE TOO! YouTube THANKS TO JEZEBEL FOR FINALLY CUTTING IT UP
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You have got to see this documentary about "objectum sexuals," people who fall in love with objects like fences and amusement park rides, (one woman even married the Eiffel Tower). And they have sex.
If you thought that men in love with Real Dolls was strange, wait until you see Strange Love: Married to the Eiffel Tower, which follows these fetishists (all of them, for some reason, female). Interestingly, Objectum Sexuals — they call themselves OS people — believe their love with the objects are reciprocal and that they can telepathically communicate with them.
Amy Wolf is in love with a fairground ride called 1001 Nacht, for which she writes poetry. Based on appearances, she seems like an out-and-proud lesbian, but has no interest in humans. She also loves a church banister, a banister in her home, and the Empire State building. Having connected through an OS people forum on the internet, Erika goes to visit Amy. (Both women are said to have Asperger's and share a history of abuse.) They go to the fairground to see 1001 Nacht. In the clip above, Amy is left alone to have an intimate moment with the ride, while Erika goes for a walk. She happens upon a picket fence and feels an immediate attraction.
Erika La Tour Eiffel married the Eiffel Tower and then took its name. But she doesn't like referring to the structure as "it" because "calling something an 'it' instantly means it's inanimate." She gets "a sense" of an object's gender. According to her, the Eiffel Tower is female.
After suffering abuse as a child, and bouncing between foster homes, she joined the US Air Force but during her training, was sexually assaulted, and defended herself with a Japanese sword, which was her lover at the time. She refused to part with the sword, and was discharged from the military for psychological reasons. She then fell in love with an archery bow — she became a US medal champion in archery — but her feelings for the bow waned after time and she moved on to bigger things, literally, as in: tourist attractions. On their one-year anniversary, Erika goes back to visit the Eiffel Tower to consummate their marriage. She lifts up her skirt, and straddles one of the beams with "no barrier" between them. The entire documentary can be seen here online.
Related:
Object Sexuality [Wikipedia]
Objectum-Sexuality Internationale [Official Site]
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Objectum Sexuality: When Relationships With Inanimate Objects Become Intimate - Objectum sexuals - Jezebel
Objectum Sexuality: When Relationships With Inanimate Objects Become Intimate - Objectum sexuals - JezebelObjectum Sexuality: When Relationships With Inanimate Objects Become Intimate
You have got to see this documentary about "objectum sexuals," people who fall in love with objects like fences and amusement park rides, (one woman even married the Eiffel Tower). And they have sex.
If you thought that men in love with Real Dolls was strange, wait until you see Strange Love: Married to the Eiffel Tower, which follows these fetishists (all of them, for some reason, female). Interestingly, Objectum Sexuals — they call themselves OS people — believe their love with the objects are reciprocal and that they can telepathically communicate with them.
Amy Wolf is in love with a fairground ride called 1001 Nacht, for which she writes poetry. Based on appearances, she seems like an out-and-proud lesbian, but has no interest in humans. She also loves a church banister, a banister in her home, and the Empire State building. Having connected through an OS people forum on the internet, Erika goes to visit Amy. (Both women are said to have Asperger's and share a history of abuse.) They go to the fairground to see 1001 Nacht. In the clip above, Amy is left alone to have an intimate moment with the ride, while Erika goes for a walk. She happens upon a picket fence and feels an immediate attraction.
Erika La Tour Eiffel married the Eiffel Tower and then took its name. But she doesn't like referring to the structure as "it" because "calling something an 'it' instantly means it's inanimate." She gets "a sense" of an object's gender. According to her, the Eiffel Tower is female.
After suffering abuse as a child, and bouncing between foster homes, she joined the US Air Force but during her training, was sexually assaulted, and defended herself with a Japanese sword, which was her lover at the time. She refused to part with the sword, and was discharged from the military for psychological reasons. She then fell in love with an archery bow — she became a US medal champion in archery — but her feelings for the bow waned after time and she moved on to bigger things, literally, as in: tourist attractions. On their one-year anniversary, Erika goes back to visit the Eiffel Tower to consummate their marriage. She lifts up her skirt, and straddles one of the beams with "no barrier" between them. The entire documentary can be seen here online.
Related: GUESS WHAT OBJECTUM-SEXUALS LOVE [Street Carnage]
I Married The Eiffel Tower [Independent]
Object Sexuality [Wikipedia]
Objectum-Sexuality Internationale [Official Site]
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You have got to see this documentary about "10 Things You May Have Missed On TV This Week - Mariah carey the view - Jezebel
10 Things You May Have Missed On TV This Week - Mariah carey the view - Jezebel
thanks for all your OS coverage. I sent you an email including my correspondence with 'OS' 'It' lady, Erika Eiffel. Hope you enjoy it. Here's a little tribute I made on one of my rogue YT channels which she has not been successful in censoring...yet. But these YT channels, they're like Frito's, you just make more.
10 Things You May Have Missed On TV This Week
In this week's multimedia compilation of pop culture crap, Chynna Phillips believes that Jesus planned for her sister and father to have sex, Tyra investigates objectum sexuals, and there's a reported vagina flash on So You Think You Can Dance.
1.) Flash Dance
This week on So You Think You Can Dance?, some woman flashed her crotch, and Fox gave her a flesh-colored blur, leading these ABC News correspondents to wonder whether or not she was going commando.
2.) Barbara disses Mariah's boring story on The View.
The interview was preempted for the breaking news that Chicago did not get picked to host the Olympics. When The View returned, Mimi's dog appeared.3.) This.
4.) Jesus wanted John Phillips to have sex with his daughter.
Because he knew it would help Chynna sell her new album.
5.) Tyra has a knack for discovering people who are really good at being assholes.
6.) Tyra also finally discovered Objectum Sexuals.
7.) Check out this hot ticket on Judge Judy.
8.) So not glitz.
9.) Kim doesn't like anything "cheesy" or "cheap."
So don't let the wig fool you.
10.) NeNe bitches out Lara Spencer.
Send an email to Tracie, the author of this post, at tracie@jezebel.com.
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